I’ve wanted to write about the subject of negativity for so long, but haven’t gathered up the guts to do so. Guess I was scared of negative feedback. But now, I'm like-screw that! I want to write about it. I mean it’s not 24/7 that we all feel sunny and on top of the world. Bad things happen and we go through shit and more often than not, people don’t want to hear about these things. It’s like when we express some form of sadness or negativity, it ruins the image that people have projected in their minds about us. But come on, as it’s been said over and over “We’re only human.”

I can understand why people do not want to subject themselves to any form of negativity. It ultimately brings us down and we don’t want to feel that. We always want to feel good. Things have to be fine if not okay. I admittedly shun the negative because it leads to undesirable thoughts of the things that are not going well in my life and the sad events of my past. Our natural instinct is to steer clear of the negative and so whoever is in a bad situation and when they speak of their situation, we avoid unintentionally. Why would we want to go where it’s raining, when we can go to a sunny place right?

In my opinion, the mistake there is that, instead of avoidance, we have to acknowledge that there is the negative. Shit happens to people and we should allow them to feel whatever they want in their situation. If they want to express anger, then let them shout. If they want to express sorrow, then let them cry. If they have done something crazy, then let them rant. Instead of criticizing, acknowledge that they’re going through this, listen and perhaps empathize. We don’t have to see them through and ultimately exhaust and give ourselves entirely to help if we’re not ready to, but to just let them express what they feel.